Have you been advised by your friends, co-workers and direct family members that you should keep distance from your husband because he’s been abusing you? If you’ve got body aches and have a bad case of low self-esteem because your spouse has physically and emotionally abused you then you should definitely get out of your house and relocate together with your children. That’s because you can’t tell what your partner would do to you next.
He may not treat you badly during certain times but because he has repeatedly done bad things it’s highly likely that he’ll do such things again. It is said that abusers are sadists that take out their aggression or whatever negative emotion they have to the recipient whom they perceive to be willing or vulnerable enough to receive abuse from them. For your sake and since you don’t want your kids to end up in the same situation, it would be best for you to find ways as soon as possible on how it would be possible for you to really get away from the person whom you married.
Instead of immediately relocating or taking your kids somewhere safe, you shouldn’t act rashly if you’re not being directly assaulted. That’s because you could be accused of kidnapping. Take note that parents have custody over their children by default and each parent has the right over their offspring.
To make sure that you’d be able to take your kids far legally, you should just make an effort to process divorce between you and the person whom you married. Obviously, you should first make a petition that you’d serve to your partner so that he would have an idea about your intention.
Whether or not you think that he’d sign your document, you should make one since you need to handle things legally and the law demands specific methods in processing marriage dissolution. If you can’t serve the petition independently, you could always contact someone else to get help or you could directly contact your local authorities to get assistance. If you wish to have detailed information regarding the procedure of divorce, please try to visit edivorce.org on the internet.
Before you serve any petition and take things to court, for your own safety, it would be best for you to pack your things in secret. No matter how much you want to bring every possession that you hold dear, if you strongly believe that your abuser would be able to stop you if you wouldn’t travel light, it would be ideal for you to carry only the things that you need.
Look for a location where you can’t be reached by your partner and also look for some people who could assist you in obtaining your kids. You should only talk to your children outright about your decision of leaving their father only when they too are aware of the abuse that you’ve experienced and you should just explain later on if it seems that your kids are oblivious to your struggles.